Since this is the Biology subreddit I'm gonna answer with biology. Someone trying to change you through some torturous process is in no way morally right and in no way effective. You are who you are, and you will always be exactly who you were meant to be. I truly hope you can get out of this situation, but do not doubt your sexuality or preference for a second. Since it wasn’t “essential”, it was “weeded out”, causing thousands upon thousands of years of hatred towards homosexuals despite our world being able to handle people who do not contribute to a new generation through sexual reproduction. The issue was, if you preferred the same sex in times where survival was key, you did not contribute to the betterment of the group and you were shunned and outcasted. Homosexuality, for as long as “humans” have been around (even noted in animals), has certainly been a thing. Sexual preference is an uncontrolled natural spectrum. It saddens me there is people who think that way in the 21st century as a young generation. Do reach out to people who you can trust and give you support when time is difficult. Only you know who you are, and you deserve to be that person and to love anyone you want to. Don't let anyone else gaslighting you into thinking you're someone else. Coming out to others takes lots of effort, but coming out to yourself takes so much more. To the author of this post, please know that you are incredibly brave to accept that you are gay. Therefore, once again, being gay is definitely NOT a choice.Īlthough I'm not very informed on the biomolecular basis on this topic, I hope we can all be more fine-tuned on the idea of sexuality as science continues to advance. Yes, our life experiences can influence what colors and genders we like, but that doesn't mean we have total control over our life experiences and force ourselves to be attracted to someone we don't. I always love to use the analogy of my favorite color to explain this: I don't choose to suddenly like purple, it just so happens that it's my favorite color now, instead of red like it used to be. Fluidity in sexuality should not undermine the idea that being gay is not a choice in any way, and the video has made a very strong case on that.
That being said, we should not conflate "becoming straight or gay" with "choosing to be straight or gay". Therefore, it is indeed unlikely for gay guys to be straight and vice versa, but it is still possible.
My romantic attraction then shifted to guys 100%. From my personal experience, I've always been sexually attracted to men, but before I accepted that I was gay, I had been romantically attracted to girls. In the video, there are evidence that people who are already engaged in heterosexual marriage come out much later in life, showing that at different points in life, we can be attracted to different types and numbers of genders. I believe that at every moment in life, sexuality is contributed by BOTH innateness (genetic factors) as well as life experiences. However, you mentioned that "Gay guys can’t be straight, just like how straight guys can’t be gay," and I think that shouldn't be taken absolutely. So yes, being gay is definitely NOT a choice. In fact, I'm a gay male myself, and believe me, whenever I picture myself being attracted to women, I can't help but being slightly disgusted. And from your comment, I assume you agree with that as well. Hi there, I'd like to share with you this Ted Talk video on the concept of fluidity in sexuality: įirst off, I totally agree that being gay or straight is not a choice, 100%, as much as the video did. Please label your submissions with user flair after submitting them. If you want something off-list, you can change the flair text yourself. If you don't have a favorite genre of biology, consider "general biology" or "bio enthusiast". Pick flair representing your favorite biological field of interest. simple homework help should be posted to /r/homeworkhelp.Health or Medical questions should be submitted to /r/AskDocs.no low effort jokes, comedy, puns, etc.no memes or ragecomics (they can be posted in /r/labrats).posting tons to links to the same website).
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